It’s been said that it’s hard to understand something if it hasn’t happened to you. This may be said for both emotional and physical problems. If you’ve never felt despair or hopelessness, it’s hard to understand how someone could feel that ‘down’.
Likewise, if you’ve never suffered from a debilitating accident or other problem that left you in chronic physical pain, it would be difficult to understand how the chronic pain sufferer in your life feels.
We want to be there for our loved ones, but sometimes just don’t know how. Wise advice given in an article in WikiHow; How To Understand Someone with Chronic Pain, says; “In order to understand chronic pain sufferers, you should learn about chronic pain, be supportive and know what to say and what not to.”
The following are highlights from this article, but it is worth reading in its entirety and I suggest you do so.
Find out more about the sufferer’s pain
“Each chronic pain sufferer’s experience is unique. It may be helpful if they talk about the condition and their daily battle with pain. The more you know about what the chronic pain sufferer is going through, the more you will be able to understand what it’s like for them.”
Learn the code
“A numeric pain scale is used to measure pain intensity so healthcare providers can check treatment efficacy. A scale from 1 to 10 describes the pain level. 1 is “no pain at all, feel wonderful” and 10 is the “worst pain ever felt.” Ask where they are at on the pain scale.”
The description goes on to say that you should not assume your loved one is not experiencing pain if they say they are fine, as he/she might attempt to hide their pain due to a lack of understanding from others. Also, chronic pain sufferers may not give you their actual level of pain because they are used to a certain level and may just accept that as normal.
Recognize coping skills
Chronic pain sufferers have been feeling awful for a long time and so may have adopted coping mechanisms that conceal the real level of pain that they feel.
Be aware of depression symptoms
This section was so comprehensive that I suggest you read it in its entirety directly from the article.
Respect physical limitations
Because there’s no obvious sign of the condition (such as a broken bone or paralysis) you can’t tell what their ability to cope with movement is like at any given moment. This also applies to their ability to sit, walk concentrate and be social. For this reason, each day has to be taken as it comes.
Look for signs of pain
“Grimacing, restlessness, irritability, mood swings, wringing of hands, moaning, sleep disturbance, teeth grinding, poor concentration, decreased activity and perhaps even writing down suicidal thoughts or language can indicate distress or pain.”
Know that chronic pain is real
“You might think that chronic pain sufferers go to doctors because they seek attention, enjoy it or are hypochondriacs. http://www.curingchronicpain.com/why-no-one-believes-that-you-hurt What they are actually doing is looking for something to improve the quality of their life, and often they are looking for the cause of their pain if it is not known. No one wants to feel the way they do but they don’t have a choice.”
Recognize what you can’t know
Pain is a difficult thing to describe to another person. It is felt personally and is based in both psychological and physical parts of us. Never assume that you know exactly how it feels for that person.
Better Understanding The Chronic Pain Sufferer And Helping Them Resolve Their Problem
Living with chronic pain is exhausting in itself. Add to this; traveling back and forth to the doctor(s)’ office and going through various treatments. Also add to this; trying to live some semblance of a normal life, such as working outside or in the home, raising children and every other aspect of life that requires the expenditure of time and energy. With whatever energy left to muster, many chronic pain sufferers do their own research to find a solution where their doctors are failing.
This is where you can really shine: Help your loved one in their search to find a solution that will end their pain for good. Reading my website, Curing Chronic Pain, will give you the information you need to understand and help the chronic pain sufferer in your life.
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Professor/Dr. Brian A. Rothbart
Chronic Pain Elimination Specialist
Discovered the Rothbarts Foot and PreClinical Clubfoot Deformity
Developer of Rothbart Proprioceptive Therapy
Inventor and Designer of Rothbart Proprioceptive Insoles
Founder of the International Academy of Rothbart Proprioceptive Therapy
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